Love – what a subject! Everybody – I mean everybody talks about love.
In todays’ world one thing is for sure: we all love. And we love a lot.
We love books, we love art, we love clothes, perfumes, cars, our cellphones, all those physical objects that we passionately gather around and those less physical as well: we love music, TV shows, we love hanging out with friends and gossiping; finally: we love other people and, of course, we love making love.
But in this madness… in this never-ending pursuit of searching for more objects and people to love, and to fulfill every second of our lives with new pleasures that love can bring us – we find ourselves more lost, more empty and more doubtful than throughout the entire history of a human kind.
I mean, after all – if we love so much, if we have all this this superior knowledge and experience about love, then how come we always end up hurt and so called “heart-broken?” Why most of the world is running around searching for some genuine affections, that something they could call “a true love”, but yet they never seem to be able to complete their quest? Language, skin color, gender, outward appearance (whether socially claimed beautiful or not) – even status of being rich or poor – it all doesn’t matter when it comes to an overwhelming rate of a failure that we all fall within, while searching for true love. Even divorce rate, in the United States alone – a staggering fifty percent (and that’s only the marriages that ended up approved by the judge) – it cries for one, very important question – that is: “where is the true love?”
So to understand – “what happened?” and – “where is the true love?”, we need to go back in time. We need to take a deep dive into our past – long, long time ago – and navigate through the early years of our lives to uncover how the real love was lost, or perhaps – how it was stolen from us. But before we go there, I think its important to shortly recap a couple of things we’ve covered in other chapters; a knowledge that will help us to better understand all this.
Footprints of my Soul: Life, Death, Eternity 
Everybody tries to pursue love from the outside, when love is an inside job. We get disappointed all the time from people because we have a lot expectations from them. Expectations of attention, approval, appreciation, and so much more. To think that other people have to give us whatever lacks in our lives, so in that way we “think” we could feel complete, this is a very selfish thought, and also very unrealistic, and destructive. In fact, you will never be completely satisfied of what they want to give. And the reason is that the other person probably expects the same things that you do, so that is why there are a lot of failures in relationships of any kind. Before we start being involved in a relationship, people need to be happy first with themselves, so your happiness will be shared. Why? Because it was already there. SHARE YOUR HAPPINESS TO THE WORLD, AND LOVE WILL FOUND YOU. When you share, you give; and when you give, you receive. Receive in your life what you already have, not what you lack. When you have self-respect, for instance, you do not want to get anything different than that from others, because Respect was already there.When you love yourself, you respect yourself, and you do not accept in your life what you think you do not deserve. When a person permits dis-consideration from others, it is because somehow he/she thinks he deserves it (listening to these voices from the inside: “I am not valuable”; “I do not have anything to give”; “I am a loser’… CHANGE THOSE VOICES, because “Nobody cannot hurt me without my permission”-Mahatma Ghandi.) We all need to understand this, about self-love, because when you really love yourself, you are yourself. And when you are yourself, YOU ARE FREE. THAT IS WHAT LOVE IS ABOUT: SPONTANEOUSLY FREEDOM.
Love is a very complex topic but to conclude I think, love needs to come from the inside, when it is there you are happy; when you are happy, you share it with people or someone who you can be yourself, to free yourself.
P.S. to the author: Beautiful job by the way. People have different interests in life, but Love is what we have all in common. I will keep reading the rest of the parts, to see what the answers are of the questions you presented in this first part, that all of us we all ever asked at some point in our lives. Thank you!
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Everybody tries to pursue love from the outside, when love is an inside job. We get disappointed all the time from people because we have a lot expectations from them. Expectations of attention, approval, appreciation, and so much more. To think that other people have to give us whatever lacks in our lives, so in that way we “think” we could feel complete, this is a very selfish thought, and also very unrealistic, and destructive. In fact, you will never be completely satisfied of what they want to give. And the reason is that the other person probably expects the same things that you do, so that is why there are a lot of failures in relationships of any kind. Before we start being involved in a relationship, people need to be happy first with themselves, so your happiness will be shared. Why? Because it was already there. SHARE YOUR HAPPINESS TO THE WORLD, AND LOVE WILL FIND YOU. When you share, you give; and when you give, you receive. Receive in your life what you already have, not what you lack. When you have self-respect, for instance, you do not want to get anything different than that from others, because Respect was already there.When you love yourself, you respect yourself, and you do not accept in your life what you think you do not deserve. When a person permits dis-consideration from others, it is because somehow he/she thinks he deserves it (listening to these voices from the inside: “I am not valuable”; “I do not have anything to give”; “I am a loser’… CHANGE THOSE VOICES, because “Nobody cannot hurt me without my permission”-Mahatma Ghandi.) We all need to understand this, about self-esteem, because when you really like yourself, you are yourself. And when you are yourself, YOU ARE FREE. THAT IS WHAT LOVE IS ABOUT: SPONTANEOUSLY FREEDOM.
Love is a very complex topic but to conclude I think, love needs to come from the inside, when it is there you are happy; when you are happy, you share it with people or someone who you can be yourself, to free yourself.
P.S. to the author: Beautiful job by the way. People have different interests in life, but Love is what we have all in common. I will keep reading the rest of the parts, to see what the answers are of the questions you presented in this first part, that all of us we all ever asked at some point in our lives. Thank you!