People will also say that “love hurts”. But you know love cannot be associated with pain. Every time pain shows up, true love fades away.
What it is, is that people let their mind to overtake the decision-making process and then it creates all those assumptions and expectations towards the quote-unquote “loved” one. And then when the difference between what’s real and what’s not kicks in, they find themselves unhappy and hurt. And then it is easy to blame love. But the moment you stop your mind from creating all those false expectations about your other half, you will let that person to be whomever she or he really is, with no filters applied. Then “love” won’t hurt anymore. And then, real love will come to the light.
So people talk and we listen. Have you ever noticed how hard it is to figure it out when people say things and they really mean them, and when they just try to cheer us up? Like they listen about your problems and say: “oh don’t worry; everything will be fine!” But how do they know? And so many times it turns out not to be fine after all. They watch your father being very sick and they hug you and tell you “he will be fine” and then shortly after he dies. And then they ran out of words, for a moment. This willingness to say whatever it is and sometimes against the reality only to cheer us up no matter what – is it really a sign of a good friend and someone who cares about you? I don’t know. But what I do know is that the only way for anyone to truly see you and understand you and to understand what love mean to you, is to be in your shoes. And that will never happen.
Footprints of my Soul: Life, Death, Eternity 